Sex

Consider why you want to have sex. Answer some of the following questions to gain a better understanding of yourself:

Why do you want to have sex?

a) Because it feels good
b) Because my girlfriend / boyfriend expects it
c) I think I have to; it’s a part of relationships
d) To prove my love to my girlfriend / boyfriend

If a pregnancy or STD was discovered, would my relationship survive?

a) Probably not
b) Definitely not
c) I hope so
d) Yes

If I stopped having sex, would my partner dump me?

a) No, but there would be pressure
b) Yes, definitely
c) I would be too scared to let them know I want to stop
d) No, our relationship would continue

Am I satisfied emotionally with my partner?

a) Our friendship isn’t what it was before sex
b) Friendship? It’s all sex.
c) I just wonder if there’s more…
d) Yes

Take a look at your answers from the quiz and determine if sex is the best choice for you and your relationship right now. If you need someone to talk to about this or other issues, get in touch with YLC – we’re here for you.

We believe that your life counts, and you are a person worth waiting for. Your physical, emotional and mental health is irreplaceable and we want to encourage you to make the decision that you feel is best. There is no sex safer than no sex, and you deserve to have the best.

Remember that you are important. Your life counts, and you can make a difference in this world. If you ever need to talk about this or anything else, feel free to get in touch with us. We’re here for you.

No matter how many people tell you that ‘everyone is doing it’ (you know, having sex) the reality is that they’re not. The Centre for Disease Control surveyed high school students and saw that 54% of North American high school students are virgins – over half. Meanwhile, 87% of high school teens say that it isn’t embarrassing to admit you are a virgin. You aren’t alone.

Remember that you are important. Your life counts, and you can make a difference in this world. If you ever need to talk about this or anything else, feel free to get in touch with us. We’re here for you.

If you are feeling pressured to have sex, ask yourself why you want to be with someone who pressures you? Maybe they’re not right for you. Other great ideas to help relieve this pressure are going out on group dates, not being isolated, and not being in a ‘secret’ place where nobody can see what you’re doing. Also, try not to be too tired around the person, or use drugs or alcohol. These things will cloud your thinking, and you want to be in an emotional state where you have the ability to say ‘no’ if you want to.

Remember that you are important. Your life counts, and you can make a difference in this world. If you ever need to talk about this or anything else, feel free to get in touch with us. We’re here for you.

There is a lot of talk about abstinence as a sexual choice. What’s it all about?

Abstinence is the practice of abstaining, of waiting. You can abstain from the internet for a week, you can abstain from chocolate for a month, you can abstain from sex until you’re married (or in a similar long term relationship). There are lots of different kinds of abstinence, and for many different purposes. The type of abstinence we’re going to talk about is sexual abstinence.

Sexual abstinence is making the decision that you are going to wait to have sex until you are in a long-term, committed, mutually monogamous relationship like marriage. This basically means that you won’t have sex until you’re with someone you will be together with for as long as you live, and it’s just you and your partner. Miss America herself (Lakita Garth, who practices sexual abstinence) described sexual abstinence as… “I Do. I do you, you do me, we don’t do nobody else.”

To find out the benefits of abstinence as a sexual choice, check out our article “Benefits of Abstinence”. To hear Lakita Garth’s story, visit http://www.epigee.org/pregnancy/feature.html .

Remember that you are important. Your life counts, and you can make a difference in this world. If you ever need to talk about this or anything else, feel free to get in touch with us. We’re here for you.

Abstinence is a great choice for so many reasons. Here is a list of the most importance reasons to practice abstinence, and why sexual abstinence is a ‘big deal’.

1. Sexual abstinence is the only 100% guarantee that you won’t become a mommy or a daddy until you’re ready. (No stretch marks, no crying babies, no poopy diapers – until you’re ready!)
2. Sexual abstinence is the only 100% guarantee that you won’t get an STD. (While latex condoms can help prevent some STDs, they are not nearly 100% effective. Condoms don’t prevent against HPV, gonorrhoea, or genital herpes among many other STDs)
3. Having sex with an individual has psychological repercussions. If there is a breakup, increased chances of depression and unstable mental health are higher.
4. Practising sexual abstinence is a great way to get to know your boundaries and develop a stronger relationship emotionally and spiritually with the person you are dating.
5. You won’t need to hide anything from your parents or your friends, which takes a lot of pressure off your back and helps strengthen your relationship with them.
6. You will know that the person you are with, is with you for YOU. Your personality, your interests, and all of the great things about you besides sexuality.
7. Statistics show that teens who practise sexual abstinence are less likely to have depression, less likely to attempt suicide, less likely to live in poverty as adults.
8. Statistics show that teens who practise sexual abstinence are likely to do better in school. (Twice as likely to graduate from college than teens who do not practise abstinence).

There are so many other personal, social and economical reasons why abstinence is a great idea. But ultimately, it all comes down to personal choice. What do you choose? Take some time to think about this.